13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do Summary

One-sentence summary: "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do" began as a personalized lesson not to succumb to poor habits when faced with hardship, but it has now evolved into a psychological guidebook that may help you develop your mental strength and emotional resilience.

As a result of the blockbuster status of the original Lifehack article, Amy's book was translated into over 20 languages and has become a best-seller. If you haven't re-read the blinks yet, you'll be glad to know that I've learned a few things that aren't included in the article:

1. It's a waste of time and energy to whine about not receiving what you want.  

2. Stop the comparison madness by deleting your Facebook news feed.3.

 3. Finally, learn to be by yourself .

This is going to be a tough mental workout...

The brain lifts are on their way!

Lesson 1: It's a waste of time and energy to whine about not obtaining what you believe you deserve.

Not spending time and energy on things that are out of your control was number four on Amy's initial list. Don't waste your time and energy attempting to influence the weather, other people's conduct, and/or the fact that you've been terminated, but don't do the same with your complaints.

For the most part, complaining is a waste of time, and it's a subject that reappears often in literature. The universe does not owe you anything, even if you believe you are deserving of anything (and who knows, you could be right). You're setting yourself up for anger, irritation, and resentment the moment you think it does.

It's possible that after you divorce, your ex-spouse may buy extravagant presents for your kid that you can't afford. You may whine about it all you want, but it will simply make you concentrate on the negative aspects and attempt to exert influence over your ex-wife. Your daughter would never turn against you if you instead spent the time with her and expressed your affection. Because of this, if you're constantly arguing with your ex-wife, you're likely to destroy the relationship that you could have had with your daughter.

Lesson#2: For a while, noo more Facebook news feeds and no more comparing yourself to others for a while.

Honestly, looking through your Facebook page just makes you feel drained. That tiny dopamine rush you receive from discovering something excellent every now and then is what keeps you scrolling. Otherwise, you're polluting your own well with comparisons.

In other words, what do you think? It's time to do something. It's time to put an end to this comparison torture. You can't help but feel sorry for yourself when you see a sea of promotion messages, Hawaii beach photos, new automobiles, and VIP parties. Facebook, on the other hand, is only a photo album. It doesn't focus on the bleak aspects of life. Nothing but the best will do.

With this, you'll be forced to compete with others on vanity measures rather than gauge your own value. You can't call yourself a friend if you're always envious of the things your friends have and do.

Put a stop to it now. Get rid of your Facebook news stream in a jiffy. Let it sit for a week before moving forward. Observe what happens. Everything will be there for you. As a result, you'll be happy with your life.

Lesson #3: Come to terms with your inability to be around other people.

Another thing Facebook can't teach you is how to create compelling content. It's acceptable to be by yourself. Sitting on your chair in your room by yourself, doing nothing for a long period of time, is an uncommon occurrence. No phone, no reading, no television, and no music. For the simple reason that it’s what it's like to be an actual person.

Being is all that matters. Most likely due to social pressure, we've all but forgotten how to conduct ourselves in such a manner. In order to be lazy, you must be inactive. In order to keep ourselves entertained, we resort to YouTube videos while eating and music 24/7, or text 50 people when we realise we're running out on "buzz".

This is something I've done. Only lately have I stopped watching TV while eating and begun going on lengthy walks without my headphones in. You learn that the world doesn't fall apart and that you don't really need anything else when you're on your own.

You'll be fine spending time on your own. One of the most fundamental prerequisites for establishing successful connections with others is this knowledge.